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The Missing Part of Me is Now Found

Posted on: March 24, 2008

Last night, on Easter Sunday (how symbolic was that??), I met my father for the first time ever.  Originally, he had mentioned that I would be meeting everyone (his wife, my older brother and his family, as well as my younger brother,) but instead it was just the two of us and I think it was better that way. 

He gave me a big hug when he saw me.  We really just tried to get to know each other. It was funny because, even though it was our first time meeting, it felt like I had known him forever.  Our conversation just flowed and there weren’t any awkward silences. He kept looking at me, laughing and shaking his head as if he was thinking “I can’t believe this is my daughter.”  We did a lot of talking about food and cooking.  We shared recipes and cooking tips, and he said that he can really tell how passionate I am about culinary school.  We talked about religion, politics, technology, just about every topic there is. Come to find out, we have A LOT of things in common.  We were at the restaurant for about 2 and half hours.  It was really nice.  I’m excited to see where this goes in the future.

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My mom, on the other hand, is really having a hard time with all of this.

Right after she picked me up from the airport on Friday, she started arguing with me and said “are you sick of me, is that why you’ve contacted your father?”  Like mom, what are you talking about.

I knew it was going to be hard for her, but I didn’t think she’d be so on edge about it.  I explained to her when I got the response from him, that it didn’t have anything to do with her, it was something that I had to do for me.  It was time that I find out about my father. She had tried to force me to talk about him at random times when I was growing up, but I always avoided it because I didn’t feel comfortable with the topic.  I had to do it when I was comfortable with it.  I know she doesn’t want me to be let down if things don’t go the way I want, but I keep telling her that I wasn’t expecting anything.  When I wrote the letter to my father, I honestly didn’t expect to get a response.  Meeting each other was his idea.  The phone call was his idea.  After I told her that I got the initial response from him, she thought that every time I was having a bad day, it was because he said something to me that made me upset, and that’s just not the case.

I’m really need her to chill out about it all, because it’s going to stress me out. 

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6 Responses to "The Missing Part of Me is Now Found"

MiMi, I am so happy for you. I know how important this is for you. Your mom will get used to the idea eventually, you just gotta give her a little extra attention and keep reminding her that this has nothing to do with her, but all about you. So what’s the Tee on Culinary School…

Congrats!It sounds like the best possible meeting you could have had! I had no idea you were in culinary school, that musst be so great. I have a huge passion for food!

Fergie — Thanks. Yeah, I spent the majority of the weekend and the last few days reassuring her that it was what I needed to do. I’m applying to culinary school now. I made the decision at the beginning of the year because cooking was something that I really have a passion for. Not that I dislike my job now, but I didn’t want to be stuck going through the motions.

Bahama — Thanks a lot!

Alleged Ringleader — Yeah, I don’t think I could’ve imagined it any better. I’m not in culinary school yet, but hopefully I will be in the next few months! *fingers crossed*

I’m glad you met your dad! I know that was exciting and I’m glad u meshed well. Your mom will get used to the idea. Shes just used to having you to herself.

I’m glad you got to vibe with your dad. I think that’s going to be one of the major regrets of my life that I didn’t. I totally understand where Moms is coming it’s going to be hard to think that she did all the “work” of raising a fabulous daughter and he gets to walk into your life “scott free” and claim a fabulous daughter.

Hugz,
FRM

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